Yesterday morning I posted on Instagram about feeling like negative Nancy after a couple things stressed me out this week. Those of you with small children know how it goes. I love my little Trippy so much but sometimes he can be quite the handful! Like his little hand full of my hair and face. It felt like the trifecta of stress from mom-life, life at the law firm, and everything else on my to-do list I have been neglecting. We all have those days where we get into a funk. But since the goal is to get back to our positive upbeat selves, I’m sharing my four favorite ways to turn a bad day around.
I loved reading your comments and seeing who cheers you up. Many of you chose your significant other as that ray of sunshine. But did you know that when looking for comfort, girlfriends may be a better bet? Which leads me to my number one way to turn a bad day around…
1. Call a Female Friend
I’m not saying don’t ever vent to your husband/boyfriend/dad – we all do it. But you might end up feeling better at the end of the conversation if you reach out to one of your girlfriends or your mom. That’s not to say men can’t be great listeners and consolers, they totally can. But, according to research, women are overall better at showing emotional empathy than men. Women are more likely to deal with stressful situations by listening and nurturing, rather than trying to “fix” the problem or find a solution. So save those multiple paragraph texts for your mama (sorry for yesterday, Mom).
2. Carve Out Some You Time
Put your oxygen mask on first! Kids, jobs, relationships, exercise, side hustles. Sometimes your own self-care can fall by the wayside. At the end of my “bad day,” the thought of fighting an over-tired Tripp through dinner and bath time felt like it was going to send me over the edge. So I did something I normally wouldn’t do – I asked my nanny to stay an extra hour and I took a walk by the beach. Selfish, self-indulgent. Whatever. Sometimes you need to fill up your tank before you can take care of others. When I got home, I was back to feeling like myself and excited to having some cuddle time with him on the couch before bed. There’s something about a walk near the beach that takes me down a notch, but whatever it is for you – a manicure, a workout class, a glass of wine? – take an hour for yourself to come back to Earth.
3. Keep a Gratitude Journal
I bought this one, which you’re supposed to write in once a week. Lately my Sunday nights have included Very Cavallari, and I just write in this when I’m feeling like a pick me up. It’s easy to get bogged down in feeling sorry for yourself and not appreciating all the good in life, but there is SO much good. Sure, Tripp may be in a very frustrating biting/break everything I like stage, but there’s nothing sweeter than the “mama hugs” time he gives me before bed. I already know I am going to want this all back when he’s 18 and leaving me. Gratitude is scientifically proven to improve physical and psychological health, so shift your mindset to focus on all of the positives in your life and you’ll feel instantaneously better.
4. Schedule Something Fun
Plan a fun date night, vacation or weekend trip. Looking forward to something always makes me feel like my stress is fleeting and temporary. This week I’ve been looking forward to a wild Thursdsay night to get me through the temper tantrums and aggressive opposing counsel moments. Cocktails by the beach? Falling asleep in a movie theater? Who knows. But if you’re experiencing the weekday blues, just remember that tomorrow is Friday.
How do you turn a bad day around? Tell me in the comments below!